I have a whole big theory about being an only child: it sucks.
Sure there are only children who are happy, well-adjusted people. But the odds are stacked against us. There are too many lost opportunities to learn and adapt to the real world. And even within the most well-adjusted only child, there are life experiences that they will never be exposed to.
I believe that I lack the ability to fully embrace relationships with people because of these lost experiences:
- Unconditional Friendship
- Constant Confidant
- Shared Responsibility
There is no “friend” who can fully replace the kind of relationship siblings have, no matter how “best” they are. And not having this relationship with someone is not the worse of it. Because I have never experienced this relationship, I don’t feel secure in any of my relationships. I do not have the confidence to fully be myself (Unconditional Friendship), to share (Constant Confidant), to ask for help (Shared Responsibility). It makes me feel very much alone, even if the people around me do want to offer me these things. There is no way for me to recognize it, use it, embrace it. I’ve never seen it, so I don’t really believe in it.